Use it as a way of distancing yourself from someone who has checked out. Use radio silence as a way to begin detaching from someone who has already detached from you. This isn’t about them, getting them back, making them miss you. Please, please hear me…this is about YOU now. That they will miss you and get in touch with you. Now, some online forums and advice columns may tell you to go radio silent to spark curiosity in your partner, that the absence of contact with you will make their heart grow fonder. If we sent text messages about the home, the car, then that was necessary contact but it was very formal and that is the way it remains. He wanted to start a new life with the new person he was leaving me for.Īfter some time I began to realise that when I messaged him and told him of my feelings, what was in my heart, I was showing another layer of my soul and emotion to someone who didn’t care to see it. ‘Remember me! You love me! You need me! Remember our life!’ He didn’t care.
I think I found it so insane that he was giving up on our marriage, that I was trying to cajole him into coming to his senses. I even sent him pictures of the happy times we had spent together. I just wanted to keep texting my husband, especially to persuade him of the HUGE mistake he was making. I found radio silence really difficult to achieve in the beginning. It is a place that offers you time to heal and catch your breath, a place where you can maintain your dignity and a place that protects you from doing and saying things you may later regret. Radio silence means no contact no calls, no texts, no emails, no Facebook messages…no contact.Īs hard as it is, you need to trust that radio silence is a safe place for you. It is a very sad and very hard process, letting go of communication and getting to a place where you can replace it with ‘radio silence.’ It can get to a stage where even negative or hurtful contact is still better than nothing at all. You may find yourself watching your phone, hoping that they will call, text, anything! Just so you know you are still somewhere in their thoughts. We can feel desperate just to have the slightest bit of contact with that person, to have their attention back, to still feel a part of their life. When the person we love breaks away from us and the initial separation begins, it is like a withdrawal process. It was hard to reconcile that this same man was suddenly cutting ties with me. The man that would cry when he went away on a business trip without me. This was the man who would text me all day while he was at work. One of the hardest parts of a separation or divorce can be the sudden lack of contact with someone who you have seen and spoken to, not to mention, loved, day in and day out for what might be many years.Īt the beginning of my nightmare, when my husband launched his shock sabotage of our marriage and my life, I found it impossible to think that I would no longer have contact with him.
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